Building Yourself Up After Years of Trauma

Trauma is any event that disrupts/disturbs you emotionally or physically. It could lead you to emotional distress and pain.  How not let it be a hurdle in a beautiful way of Self-love?

 Trauma comes with after-effects that include confusion, anger, distress, frustration, hopelessness, anxiety, fear, etc. Let me assure you that it is completely fine if you feel that way. Trauma is not something to cherish about! Suppressing your emotional reactions is not healthy for your mental health too. It is natural to feel sad even after months of an unsettling event, as the memories or flashbacks come in!

 First thing that is needed is “Self-acceptance”. When you start accepting yourself, you start loving & caring yourself.

In mental health concerns, trauma is related to deep distressful experience. It is also known as “Emotional Trauma”. Life seems miserable at this stage but this is actually the time when you need to learn to love yourself even more. Firstly, you need to realize the fact that, it was never your fault. As no one invites traumas in their lives, they just happen. Also, the realization comes a “sense of security” which is the second major component after “self-acceptance”.

Self-esteem, self-worth, self-satisfaction is all the major components of Self-love. If you experienced trauma years ago, yet you are living with it until now. Then you are hurting every time you think about the incident. Living it again & again will cause you more sadness and hurt. You need to “LET IT GO”. Secondly, you need to “forgive yourself” for all the loss that happened. 

Self-care and self-love go hand in hand. It starts by taking smaller steps towards happiness. First, you need to figure out what makes you happy? It may be reading a good book, eating your favorite food, walk in a garden, or a simple phone call to your best friend. Consequently, you will start to feel alive day by day. This is the master key in loving yourself again, because when you are happy then you also take care of yourself in the best possible way.

Here is a list of things that can help you build yourself again after spending years of trauma:

Be Mindful.

Start with small happy steps.

Get enough sleep.


Try practicing Yoga.

Try a D.I.Y craft of your interest.

Connect with people you love.

Join a support group

Volunteer in your community

Ask for professional support.

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